It doesn’t say life is fair on my birth certificate. It probably doesn’t on yours either. It’s not fair for a baby to be born in poverty, or a child raised in a gang neighborhood, or that someone is rich, and another one is poor. But the worst thing we can do is become a victim to it.
“I’m this way because my father never really loved me.” Or, “I never got the right education.” Or, “I’m too old.”
Have you noticed we can all come up with reasons for life not working out the way we want it? We’re too old, too young, too fat, too thin, too tall, or too short. And yet, we see every different type of person with impossible odds having a great life and being really successful.
Life is not fair—so what! Life is too short to let it get us down. We can be successful with exactly everything we have and everything we have not. How do we know? Because people from all walks of life are doing it. Beethoven wrote great music and he was deaf! Stephen Hawking made ground-breaking scientific discoveries despite suffering from motor neuron disease.
Thomas Edison, the most prolific inventor of his generation was fired from his job, when a chemical experiment, leaked acid on to his boss’ desk. Jesse Owens experienced racial discrimination in his own country, yet won the Olympic gold at the 1936 Berlin Olympics and helped demolish the myth of Hitler’s Aryan superiority theory.
J.K. Rowling, managing on benefits as a single mother, became the world’s best-selling children’s author, even though her manuscript for Harry Potter was rejected by several publishers. Malala Yousafzai was a Pakistani schoolgirl who defied threats of the Taliban to campaign for the right to education. She survived being shot in the head by the Taliban and has become a global advocate for human rights, women’s rights and the right to education.
There are so many examples of life not being fair and people going beyond amazing—that life being not fair seems to push some people into new realms of ability. Today, think of one thing you would do if you had the resources or the skill? What is stopping you? If you still are not sure—read about a woman called Pauline Victoria who lives with no arms and no legs.
Pauline is married and when she was asked about how she managed to raise her son she said,
“Yes there were physical challenges when he was an infant, but I was fortunate to have a strong support system. As a mother, I have nurtured my son mentally, emotionally and spiritually.”
Everything is possible my friend. You are never alone in your struggles—there is always someone better off and someone worse off. Seek to rise above and beyond and you will wake up one day in a completely different place from where you are now.