“This above all-to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” William Shakespeare wrote Hamlet around 1601, and the words ring just as true today. If we are not true to our own selves, we cannot be true to anyone else. Sometimes, it is difficult to be true to ourselves, when our truth seems to fly in the face of other people’s truths. As human beings we like to fit in; it’s much easier when we fit in. The problem is that some of the people we are trying to fit in with, are not necessarily the best people for us to fit in with. That’s why it can be difficult at school for kids. They want to fit in, but they can’t find the right crowd to fit in with.
If we morph ourselves to be other than who we truly are, we feel bent out of shape. It doesn’t feel right when we are trying to be someone who we are not. I was talking to a friend who goes to a writing class. He said, “The people in the class are all in cliques, and sometimes one of them will talk to me, and sometimes they won’t; but I’ve been going for so long now, I’m used to it.” That’s what we do, we form cliques and we invite people in or not depending on how they seem to fit in.
Myself, I have a few close friends who I can be completely myself with. They have all seen the worst and the best of me, and they are still friends. If you have to behave differently from who you are, then you are not being true to who you are. However, there is a big caveat here; if you are always showing your worst side to people, that is not being true to yourself. Being true to yourself is showing the best side of you also. It’s the 80/20 rule again. Eighty percent be true to your best side, and twenty percent be true to your worst side. To kick depression give your best side the upper hand. So for example, one of my worst true sides is that I get angry quickly—and I learn to not do that. I learn to be patient, take a breath, wait a moment before reacting. I am still being true to myself, and I am being true to the self that I prefer.
Today, be true to yourself, and be aware of the self you are showing mostly to the world. Which part of you would you like to give eighty percent of your time to? Make depression smaller and smaller so that it only takes up twenty percent of your day. Bring on the best true part of yourself and let that be the true face you show the world. Your best true self is much more important than your worst true self; so let it shine today my friend; you deserve it.