A lot is said about happiness. Being happy is the utmost prize it seems. But is it possible to be happy all the time? The answer is no. I’ve tried it, but here’s what I find. I meditate for an hour, two hours, four hours or even more. I get into a place of utter bliss. I feel absolutely fantastic when I come out of the meditation and what happens? Someone says or does something that is not in alignment with my bliss, and I immediately feel frustrated.
I’m sure not everyone has this problem, but I do. It even happens when I read a wonderful book. I can wake up in the morning early, and read an uplifting, inspiring book and I feel, “Yes I can do this. I can be happy, I am happy.” I go downstairs and the place is untidy, and I immediately lose my happiness. Again, I am sure not everyone has this problem, but I do. So I learned something that really helped me overcome this up and down, yo-yo effect of swinging from happiness to unhappiness in the blink of an eye. Happiness is not a steady emotion. Happiness has its ups and downs. Happiness one minute can come crashing down the next.
Someone can walk into a room and be too happy. They can make other people feel there is something wrong with them. “Why can’t I be happy like that?” You may think. “What’s wrong with me?” Answer, nothing. Nothing is wrong with you. Happiness is an act. Haven’t you noticed famous actors being all happy, and saying, “We’re such a happy couple, we will never get divorced.” And next thing, they’re getting divorced. What happened to the happy couple?
Happiness is not the goal to attain. The goal to attain is to know when you are happy it is okay, and when you are unhappy it is okay. You are okay whatever is going on. When you realize you are okay whatever is going on, then you can be truly happy. But it is not the kind of happiness that is loud, or obnoxious—it is not the kind of happiness that makes other people feel there is something wrong with them. True happiness is like a source of well-being inside of you. It rests in a place of being okay with you, no matter what is going on around you. It doesn’t matter who you are with, or where you are, you are okay, and you are happy with that.
For me, most of the time (hey I am still a work in progress–I am not done yet), so most of the time even if I am emotional it is okay. Even I am angry, it is okay. Even if I am feeling frustrated, it is okay. It is the feeling of not being okay with my emotions and who I am that creates unhappiness for me. Once I am living in the truth of who I am, and accepting who I am warts and all–then I can breathe. Breathe and accept–that’s when happiness finds a doorway into me.
Today, find a place of being okay within yourself and being happy with that. Be happy with where you are. Whatever you are doing, wherever you go, however you feel, know that you are okay and be happy with being okay. The state of being happy is having an experience of being happy. When you are okay with who you are, you are having an experience of being happy. You know who you are and you are okay with who you are. What more happiness can a person have? My friend, happiness is simple—it is a small feeling that you are okay, and you are okay with that. You are okay, you are okay, you are okay—then be happy that you are okay.