Money is energy. It allows us to buy things. It allows us to survive. It buys a roof over our heads, food on our table, technology in our lives. We may buy a car, spend it on a vacation, or clothes, shoes, sports….most things in life require money. I have asked people who are on the verge of retirement, “what do you want to do?” and many say, “Travel.” But travel costs money. Hobbies cost money. Okay, okay, I know you are saying to yourself, “I want to be a Life Warrior and learn some combat moves to kick depression. But this talk about money is just making me more depressed!” Don’t let it. The money talk is what depression actually doesn’t want you to do. Remember when I said that depression just wants to hide away. To skulk in the corner, leave the party early and take your ball with you—because if you’re not playing and having fun—no one else is allowed to.
The same goes for money. Depression loves you to feel worried about money; it loves to feel that there is not enough money to go around, or that you don’t have enough money to pay the rent, the car loan or the school fees. So it doesn’t talk in any positive way about money. So it ignores the money talk.
To kick depression let’s have the money talk right now. First, you can tell what you spend money on, by looking at your visa bills. What are your payments going towards? Clothes, hobbies, vacation or just survival things like food, and rent. It doesn’t matter at this point what your money is going towards, this is about kicking depression in the gut and bringing the money topic out into the sunlight. You are airing your money situation just like you would air anything else…you bring it into the light.
Second step. Do you need to see a money councilor? I did that one time when I got into serious money problems, I went to the free Catholic Charities counseling services and got tremendous help just in sorting out my bills and finances. Remember, depression doesn’t want you to talk about what is going on, so be a Life Warrior and talk to a professional about your financial problems. You will see, just as I did, that nothing is as bad as it seems.
It may seem bad right now, because depression makes you feel so alone. That no one in the world cares about you. But that is a lie. People do care. I am writing this because I care and my gift is to write. I would not be the person to bring your financial problems to, because that is not my talent. My talent is writing about my experiences. And my experience with depression led me to want to help other people who are going through the same kind of thing. I am not a doctor, so I don’t prescribe medication, but I am all for medication if that is what you need. Bottom line, there is help for you. I want to help by pointing you in a different direction, that’s all.
Today then, please bring your money into the open. Find out where you spend your money by looking at your expenses and notice what your visa statement tells you about your money habits. Next, find a counselor if you need one. Make an appointment. If you need to cut back on spending, cut back. But here’s the kicker. If buying a new top every week helps elevate your mood and you can afford it, then buy the top. If playing a round of golf helps you keep fit and you can afford it, then play the golf. But if you are spending money on alcohol and cigarettes and chocolate and it isn’t making you feel good, then stop. Stop spending money on things that feed your depression. Start spending money on things that elevate your mood and bring vitality into your life. Sort your spending into vitality and depression.
Make two columns: Vitality and Depression. Under the vitality column, name all the things you spend money on that make you feel great. Under the Depression column, write all the things you spend money on that make you feel depressed. What do you want to spend your money on? How do you want to feel at the end of the day? What do you want your money energy to feed? Vitality or Depression.
My friend you are doing great. You are here and I am here with you. I made it through to a more vital life and you can too. It won’t all happen overnight….I am still learning myself how to be a Life Warrior. I am here with you and we are doing this together my friend. Happy money day!