Family is a wonderful thing. It can also be a horrendous thing. People love their family, and some people hate their family. The reason is that we mostly think of family as those people who were born in close relationship to ourselves. Our mom and dad, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents. But really, we are all family. I have heard that in some places, people take on family members as needed. For example, a person who has no mother, can take on a motherly figure and treat that person as their mother. Someone who has no father, meets a man who acts like a fatherly figure in their life. People call each other sister and brother, even when they are not related. So who is your family really?
Answer, everyone. Seen from space, the earth is a tiny ball with an iron core moving and spinning through the atmosphere. We can’t even see human life from such a distance.And as we get closer and see people moving about we all look exactly the same. And if you have ever talked with a stranger, and shared ideas and thoughts, you will soon learn that we actually are all the same. We all want to be part of a family. We all want to love and be loved. We want to feel that we belong. Yet when we are depressed, we feel like we don’t belong. That we are unlovable. When I was really depressed, that’s how I felt. I felt that no one cared. More accurately, as I look back I realize that I was the one who didn’t care. I couldn’t care if my children had school lunches or not. I couldn’t care if I looked a mess or not. I just didn’t care about myself or anyone else. I am here to tell you today, right now in this moment, that I care. Other people care. You and me, we just have to reach out.
You may not have family. You may not be as lucky as the man who was so depressed all he could do was reach to the telephone and call his dad for help. You may be that depressed but feel there is no one to reach out to. Maybe you feel all alone in the world. You are not. You may feel that way, but you are not alone. I am writing this just for you. You alone. You are someone I care about. Even if we haven’t actually met. I know you. You are awesome and amazing and wonderful. You are a human being on the planet and as a human being you are wanted. You have a special gift that people are waiting to feel and experience.
Today, reach out and find your family. Maybe it is someone you know, or maybe it is a stranger. Okay, I don’t want you to be all crazy and walk up to a stranger and say, “Will you be my mom?” I am talking about connecting on a soul level. Smile at an older person who reminds you of a mother or a father—it will open up your heart and remind you that we are all family. Think about what happens in a crisis—people reach out and help complete strangers. Well we are in a kind of crisis today. We have technology that links us to almost every part of the world. Yet, what we need to remember is that we are all family and we need to connect with people. You may be seeing the differences in people: color, size, shape, culture—but from a bigger picture we are all the same. We are family. We are familiar, and we are all descendants of one common ancestor long ago. So today, it’s about family, and finding the familiar in a stranger.