My two daughters are known as Irish twins. There’s only 10 months 3 weeks between them; so for a couple of months a year, they are the same age. I used to dress them in the same style but different colors. My blonde haired youngest in blue, and my brown-eyed oldest in red or pink. They are as different as two people could be.
My beautiful Libra daughter will do anything to balance the situation, and my beautiful Virgo daughter, although a comedian at heart…is always striving for perfection. I am blessed that my daughters love me; I haven’t always been the best mom on the planet. When we moved to the USA in 1983, they were nine and ten years old. I became very depressed being in this new country with no friends, no family and no job.
There were times when my eldest packed hers and her sisters own brown lunch bags for school. Even so…writing that seems lame when I consider that some children don’t even have food to pack into a non-existent brown bag. The thing about being a parent, is that it’s easy to see the bad things we do—and not so easy to think of the good things we did. It’s like having a ‘critical parent’ talking in my head, “You didn’t do a good job….” “You were too….” “That wasn’t very good.” And on and on.
The wonderful thing however about daughters is that if you ask for forgiveness—there’s a good chance they will forgive. That’s my experience anyhow.
I’ve been completely honest with my two girls and they love me anyhow. They’re close to me. I didn’t have a mom growing up, so I had no good role model until I met my mother-in-law. I am her daughter-in-law and although it took me a while to be a loving one—we have come to love each other very much. She’s almost 90 and had a stroke which paralyzed her left side, and yet she always beams when she sees me on Skype. She lives across the pond in Whitley Bay, so we don’t see her too much.
What’s my point? That whatever has gone on with the ‘daughters’ in your life, you can for sure ask them to forgive you anything. Daughters are by nature nurturing and loving—they want to love and be loved. They want to have a great relationship with mothers, mother-in-laws, and step moms. We crave to be nurturing and nurtured. I saw it with my friend Joanne and her elderly mom. The way Joanne spoke to her, gently helped her walk, and nurtured her spirit even when she passed.
My friend, whatever your relationship with daughters—be it good, bad or neutral—up it today. Write a letter, pick up the phone, send a card. Every time we nurture a relationship in our lives we are nurturing other similar relationships across the globe. Our energy goes out and touches the hearts, mind and spirits of other people—it’s impossible not to. We are in the universe—uni-verse—one song! Sing it loud, sing it strong and sing it with love.